I copied this from my friend's FB post.
To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice: " Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz." While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don't settle for any of his relatives; Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Controllin'-az, & especially his third cousin Beatin'yo-az. Wait for your Boaz, and make sure he RESPECTS YO-AZ! (Because it doesn't take a zoologist to recognize a JACK-AZ!)
I know I want to find and have love. To have a family. I am so proud and quite jealous of my friends who had wedding anniversaries this summer. It is such a blessing and accomplishment to be married and have someone to love and children to teach and get frustrated and love with.
I am not sure why I dont get that blessing.
I am reminded of summer 2008. I was teaching 14 yr olds in Sunday School. I had many kids who were not in my class attending my class. I didnt care as long as these teens were in Sunday School and listening to the lesson I was fine. We had a very spiritual lesson and everyone was quiet and we all felt The Spirit. Due to the lack of talking etc we finished early. Several members of the class were children of my friends and we hung out. They knew my personal life. It came out that I had been dating and been online looking for dates. They asked how old I was. I told them 34. While the whole class was surprised one 17 yr old was especially shocked that I was that old and not married. He told me I needed to lower my standards. I said with tears in my eyes-that men needed to step up.
I was frustrated that the answer to my singledom was to settle for a less than good man. Then in retrospect I guess I did.
Now I am dating a man who cannot take me to the temple for several years. If we are going to be together I need to move. I dont want to settle. I dont want to keep waiting for something better when something better doesnt exist. I have been out with 2 good active LDS men recently. Both broke it off with me. I dont know why active priesthood holders find me repulsive or not good enough but they do. I feel trapped.
4 comments:
Dear Mair,
I think of you daily. How I wish the person you are looking for would find you. I know in my heart he is out there. I wish the crystal ball was working, so I could tell you where. Maybe the one you are with is "the one" and maybe he is not. Only Heavenly Father knows, and he is waiting for you to ask. Praying and listening are hard. But I do know that after being in the temple today, being there with your spouse is so important. Good things will come...thank you again for allowing me to be part of your life.
oh Mary Ann, this breaks my heart. All I can say is that you are an incredible person with or without someone to share your life with. I don't know what to say without sounding trite or cliche. But seriously, you are an incredible example to all single women out there. You are strong, independent, smart, funny, talented, wise, etc... Just remember that I'm always thinking about you and hoping for the best for you.
I think for some reason you and your new love did not meet up when you were origionally ment to so choices were made and life was lived and now you two finally met and it is what it is. I think that you are not lowering your standards with this one. He is trying and has is doing everything he needs to to show you he is worthy. If you keep going to the temple then when he is ready he can go with you. If he stops doing what he should then it would be lowering your standards. You follow what I am saying? His past is not worthy of you but his present is. Oh I will shut up now. Love you!
Mair babe! I wished I had all the answers. But you know where to go to find them. Perhaps your past happened so you will be cautious with this one and you can help heal him from his past he just needs help (like we all do) being the best he can be. Perhaps his past happened so he can heal you from yours. IDK. Honestly IDK. Just my thoughts. Whatev the outcome....I LOVE YOU DEARLY and I admire you so much. I really do. You are such an example to me. You desire the right things, and you are waiting for the right timing. YOU ROCK GIRL:)
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